Posts Tagged ‘Rape Culture’

There is a moral panic in America over young women’s sexuality—and it’s entirely misplaced. Girls “going wild” aren’t damaging a generation of woman. The myth of sexual purity is. The lie of virginity—the idea that such a thing even exists—is ensuring that young women’s perception of themselves is inextricable from their bodies, and that their ability to be moral actors is absolutely dependent on their sexuality. It’s time to teach our daughters that their ability to be good people depends on their being good people, not on whether or not they’re sexually active.

– Jessica Valenty, The Purity Myth

(via Let’s Be Human)

[Warning trigger: Rape, Rape Culture, Mocking Rape]

This is absolutely sickening. This postcard used to be sold on Etsy till 17,000 signatures forced them to stop.

(via Talkin’ Reckless)

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Posted: April 16, 2011 in Social Commentary
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Do you know why I have never been raped? Because I refuse to speak to people who think exerting VIOLENCE UPON OTHERS IS EVER OKAY. Do you know why I will never be raped? BECAUSE I REFUSE TO GO ANYWHERE THAT WOULD PUT MYSELF IN THAT SORT OF DANGER, WHICH INCLUDES BUT IS NOT LIMITED TO, GOING TO PARTIES WHERE I MIGHT DRINK TOO MUCH IN THE PRESENCE OF PEOPLE I DON’T KNOW, WALKING THROUGH CITIES WITH HIGH CRIME RATES ALONE, OR AT NIGHT, OR AT ANY TIME THAT COULD PUT ME AT RISK, BEING IN ANY SORT OF RELATIONSHIP WITH ANYONE WHO IS SLIGHTLYIMMORAL, SPEAKING WITH ANYONE WHO TRIES TO LIMIT ANY OF MY FREEDOMS (which, by the way, aren’t granted by the government. The government doesn’t get to tell me what the fuck to do, either), OR JUST GENERALLY BE IN THE PRESENCE OF PEOPLE WHO ARE ANYTHING LESS THAN DESIRABLE, PLEASANT, MORAL, RATIONAL, OR LOGICAL. 

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I do know why you haven’t been raped, it’s because you’ve been lucky

(via STFU Rape Culture)

Men blaming women for being raped is disgusting. Women blaming women blaming women for being raped makes me want to puke.

Seriously, get off your high horse. Girls get raped by their fathers, their best friends, their brothers, their uncles, their fathers friends, their brother’s friends and so on.

Rapists don’t have a sign hanging off their necks saying “Rapist”. There are often “pleasant, desirable, rational” men.

I am a little sick of seeing these posts where people go around blaming society’s standards and expectations being the reason some people abuse others.

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I thought this was a great show that was trying to break the myths about rape and taking a stance against rape culture.

 But then the last two episodes I watched  had the victims lying about rape: one for money, the other in fear of her mother. 

After that I started questioning more of the show. Most of the rape victims were dead. Of the ones that have been alive, three were murderers, one a crazy mormon who forgave her rapist, two were liars. There are also too many flippant remarks about rape in prison.

I have a bitter taste in my mouth and don’t want to watch this show anymore.

 An appellant brief was filed last March in the Montana Supreme Court on behalf of Duane R. Belanus, who had been convicted of “of sexual intercourse without consent involving the infliction of bodily injury, aggravated kidnapping, burglary, tampering with or fabricating physical evidence, and misdemeanor theft” after beating and anally raping his then-girlfriend.

The brief starts by quoting convicted rapist, Mike Tyson’s character in the move “Hangover”

Don’t worry about it…like he said, we all do dumb shit when we’re fucked up.

The brief ends by quoting homophobic, antisemitic, racist misogynist Mel Gibson from after he was arrested for a DUI in 2006

Alcohol loosens your tongue, and makes you act, speak, and behave in a way that is not you

Luckily, Balanus was still convicted.

Posed by Bryce on Where is Your Line:

GOP and the media talked about this [Planned Parenthood] as a fight over abortion, it wasn’t about that at all. After all, the Hyde Amendment prohibits Planned Parenthood from using any federal money it receives to pay for its abortion services. Not to mention that such services makes up for a mere 3% of what it does. What’s the rest of it, you ask? Four million STD tests, one million pap smears, 830,000 breast exams, and providing 83% of all clients with things that prevent unwanted pregnancy in the first place. The rider also stripped funding from UNFPA, which isn’t allowed to use federal funds for abortion either. Rather, its mission is to avert maternal and infant mortality in developing countries.

So this wasn’t about money and it wasn’t about abortion. Why exactly has the GOP targeted Planned Parenthood so heavily? Author Ellen Chesler points outthat part of it is political: get rid of Planned Parenthood and you eliminate an organization that effectively mobilizes women who vote against Republicans. Amanda Marcotte explains that it’s also about Republicans deciding that poor women who have sex don’t deserve government money.

It’s also about controlling women’s sexuality. Any woman can get it on without severe consequences because she’s empowered with contraception and sex education and, good heavens, the choice to terminate and unwanted pregnancy. By denying women the tools to have safe sex when and with whom they choose, the GOP is looking to put up limits. The idea that a woman could have sex for pleasure, do it out of wedlock, and not suffer the wrath of God in the form of an STD or an unwanted pregnancy clearly irks them.

The GOP’s bait and switch on abortion was also evident in HR3, the “No Taxpayer Funding for Abortion Act,” which was from the start redundant, as the Hyde Amendment already takes care of this. But beyond that, Republicans managed toinclude a provision that changed the definition of rape to only that which is “forcible.” This has nothing to do with abortion, but everything to do with attacking women and their sexuality. It put the blame on the woman who “asks for it” or is “too drunk” or “too flirtatious” rather than on the rapist where it belongs. It’s one more way of punishing women who don’t wear iron clad chastity belts. They may claim that this is about saving the lives of fetuses, but when it’s clearly not about abortion and rather about sex and rape, it’s hard to take them at their word.

And even though the facts are clear these fights aren’t really about abortion, the GOP drums up the perception that they are. Anti-abortion fever is also about controlling women who have sex. As Ann Pellegrini puts it: “Abortion conjures raced and classed images of an out of control female sexuality. An unwanted or unplanned pregnancy, which can happen for so many reasons—including failed contraception or a failure to educate young people about contraception at all (hello, abstinence-only sex education)—is instead recast as a woman’s failure in self-discipline and sexual morality.”